John Piper has asked "Do you feel loved God because He makes much of you or because He frees you to enjoy and make much of Him". There are elements of truth to God making much of us so that we feel love but I agree with Piper that it is better to feel loved when you have been freed to enjoy Him and glorify Him.
Pete Wilson, a pastor in Nashville at Cross Point Church, writes an engaging book. The books title is Plan B : What do you do when God doesn't show up the way you thought he would. I do not know if Pastor Wilson would agree with John Piper's statement or if he would rather we feel loved because we are made much of by God. I do know, though, that when I read this book I felt like he wanted me to see that God made much of me and that I was loved despite my circumstances ... but nothing more.
Pastor Wilson writes about many people whom he has ministered to who have struggled amidst their circumstances. He has tried to show them (and by writing this book, us) that God loves them and has what is best for them despite their apparent hopes and dreams being dashed.
Pastor Wilson gives numerous biblical examples of men and women who had their own adversaries and he writes how God still means these circumstances for their good.
However, this book, though helpful in many spots, left me wanting. I want to know there is an end my circumstances beyond my own feelings of love from God. I want to be about enjoying God and glorifying Him, and not left still looking inwards. I do not know if Pastor Wilson would say his book is for this reason only - so that I would know I am loved by God, or if he would agree with Pastor Piper. I only know that this book leaves me wanting more.